It’s easy to get bogged down with all the available self-help information, and lists of “how to’s and must try’s”. I get it. I have read them all! To be honest, there are days where reading a good self help article makes me more stressed than ever! But, the truth is that you don’t have to dive into the sea of self help. You just have to sit down and reflect.
You might be surprised at how much you can benefit from asking yourself just a couple of questions!
Really. It is that simple.
Take a few moments every month to check in with yourself. Your answers will help you determine if you’re on track to reaching your goals and enable you to make an action plan that will get you there in record time.
Keep it basic. Keep it honest.
Ask yourself these two questions to help you get some perspective:
- “If an invisible person followed you around all day, what would they see?” Would they see joy or frustration? Would they see you working at your goals? Would they see someone that is just going through the motions?
- Our lives are largely the result of the actions that we take each day. Are you taking actions that move you forward to the future you desire? Even during life’s tough times (and we all have those bumps!), what is your outlook?
- What would that invisible person logically conclude about you, your life, and your future?
- “If you lived that average day, every day, for the next 5 years, what is the logical outcome?” So if you kept living your average day over and over, where is your life likely to end up? Now compare that logical conclusion with the life you’d like to have. How close are they?
- Are you likely to end up where you want to be financially? Are you currently taking consistent action to have the financial life you desire?
- Are you likely to have the body that you want? Are you making sure that you are taking care of your health? Or are you waiting to start tomorrow, or Monday, or the first of the month, or the first of the year? Trust me on this… I hate (loathe is a better word) exercising, but I know that for my mental and physical health I have to. Some days I only do a 20 min walk with Arthur and that is ok. You don’t have to be a health goddess. Take baby steps! It is the same with food. I adore my cheese, but I try to limit it to the weekends or at least make sure I don’t have it at every meal.
- Are you likely to be enjoying the type of relationships you desire? This could be with friends, partners, or your family. What are some things that are holding you back from communicating? Are you in a relationship that helps you grow or holds you back?
- Are you likely to be advancing in the career you seek? You don’t have to change careers overnight, or even at all; where would you like to see yourself in 5 years?
What do you need to do on a consistent basis to achieve the life you hope for?
People largely fail to end up where they wish to be for two reasons:
- They have no idea where they’re going. If you don’t have a plan (even a small one), you must live by default, sitting around until something goes wrong and then spending your energy fixing the issue. Start with small, easy goals. And remember to give yourself credit when you make a move forward!
- They don’t do the things each day that will create the life they want. In spite of what many gurus seem to claim, you can’t wish your way to success. Success is the result of making positive decisions and taking actions that reflect those decisions. Like I said, it can be small steps toward a goal…it doesn’t have to be a huge powerhouse leap. Give yourself 20 min a day to do something for you. Take a class online, or try out a favorite new healthy recipe. Walk around the block, or put on your favorite music and dance around the living room. Remember to be patient with yourself, and give yourself time to discover what makes you zing!
It doesn’t take a lot to be very successful, but it does take consistency.
For instance, imagine if you did 1 pushup every day this week and added 1 pushup a week. In 5 years you would be doing 250 pushups a day and you would never struggle for a minute. Trust me, if I can do this than so can you. The first time I tried to get back into my exercise routine (after 3 years) I thought I was going to have a heart attack. It was bad. Very bad. Now, I can make it through 25 min of dance cardio….I still hate it….but I am getting better every week.
In the same way, establishing daily habits that move you forward toward achieving your goals will result in your success.
So which habit will you start today?