I have often read that “life is a journey”, and although I adore the sentiment I have to say that I prefer the other quote “Life is a f*&^#ing fight”. It seems much more honest. Life is a battle, and we need to wear our helmets at all times. We work toward a goal, and pound the pavement trying to find the perfect harmony of love, financial stability and health. But, what happens when you work hard and the goal is still unreachable? What happens when you hit that inevitable burn out?
You can be full of optimism and confidence, but there will always be days when the little gremlin inside of you screams “you have failed again! Ha! Just give up already”. Those little nasty thoughts that threaten to trample on your hopeful outlook. It happens to the best of us. It happens on the days when you feel that a pile of bricks has come tumbling down on top of you. The job you wanted fell through. Your finances are so strained you can barely make the bills. Your health takes a nasty and unexpected turn.
We all have the moments when heaving big sobs full of uncertainty is the only reasonable thing to do. We all have the moments when we look up at the sky, pound our fists in the air and scream “give me a f*&^ing break!”.
So what do we do?
First, I suggest letting yourself have that moment. Give in to the grief and the frustration, and own it. Pushing it down, and pretending that it is fine will only lead to an atomic bomb inside of you that will explode sooner or later. Cry, curse, vent, and allow yourself to feel the ache. And oh yes, that gremlin voice will shout at you “failure, failure, failure” until you start to feel like you are one. You can’t escape it, but you must conquer it. The second you start to believe that you are a failure is the very moment you have to reverse the dialogue. That is the moment when you rise up to greet that bastard voice in your head and tell it to piss off. You must say with every ounce of courage you have, “I am not a failure. This is part of the battle”. Because life will test you, and you can allow yourself to rest, and sob big hopeless tears…but never give up. Even when you feel like a failure. Even when continuing on your path seems like the hardest thing to do in the world. The choices we make in these moments define us.
Be brave. It will hurt like hell. It does for all of us at some point in the game.
Life is a fight, so put up a good one.