Have you ever had one of those weeks (or months!) where life feels like it is coming at you from every direction?
When you want to shake your fists at the sky and scream “Seriously!! Why is this happening to me? What did I do to deserve this?”
The truth is, all of us get comfortable in what works in a given time in our lives. Sometimes it takes the Universe (or God) kicking us in the pants to make a change – when our lives fall apart, we are forced to take stock of what we are surrounding ourselves with. The Universe isn’t trying to harm us (even though it can feel that way). It is trying to make us wake up! It does this because it knows what’s best for us on a soul level. I know this sounds ridiculously woo-woo…but bear with me for a second. If we are too cozy in our comfort zone and don’t recognize the signs we are getting from the Universe, it eventually takes action to make things happen for us.
Think of it more as a transition…
Yet, not knowing what’s going to happen next is frustrating beyond belief! You can feel like your whole life is simply waiting for the next ball to drop! However, it also gives us the courage to take risks that we might not have had previously. Once that comfort zone is gone, we can face our fears and find a strength and resilience inside of us that was buried beneath the fear. If we do this, and not just rush right back into another situation – any situation – to feel comfortable again, we will find the good stuff. The connection. The vulnerability and honesty that comes from stripping away the false pretense of pretending everything is fine.
The aim during this time of transition should be to take this opportunity, even though it’s hard, to figure out what it really is that will make us happy and then go after it with all you have got.
But…”will I be ok” you ask?
Yes, you will. Promise.
It doesn’t feel like it now, but a whole new world of possibilities is about to open up to you once you can shed the old stuff that’s been holding you back from seeing the courage inside you.
Maybe you are still in the phase where you don’t care what you can learn from this situation – you only want the pain to stop. Understood. Truly, I get it.
However, it’s important to recognize that once the initial grieving is over, you will see that something good can come from the loss that you now feel you’ll never get over.
You will find:
- You know what doesn’t work for you
- You eventually feel lighter
- You’ve learned what is really important
- You’ve been “at the bottom” and have less fear about things that were holding you back before
- You have the impetus to change
- You don’t have to be the strong one all the time
- You don’t have to be perfect to be loved
- You have true friends
- You can feel free by letting go, by surrendering
- You can release the fears that have kept you “safely” stagnant
If you will open up your heart and learn these important lessons in spite of the pain or fear, they are the lessons that will lead you to the grace and growth that comes from walking through the darkness.